What I’ve learned from four years of experience and earning £150K from writing.

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At eighteen, sitting in a meeting with my mum and my form tutor at school, I made my decision. Four universities had offered me a place to study psychology. And I was going to reject them all.

Shocked, maybe even a little horrified, the adults in the room proceeded to lecture me on the many arguments against pursuing a freelance career. It lacks stability, they told me. It’s nearly impossible to find work. And, most importantly of all, ‘There’s just no money in the writing industry these days’.

At this point, I’d already landed a freelance gig as a writer. Being paid a penny per word, the £50 I was able to earn each month felt like millions. Yes, I was writing about window fixtures and dog food, but still. …


A story by Nir Eyal, taken from edition two of our print magazine.

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Photography by Joseph Marchant

It’s here! Edition two of our print magazine, entitled ‘Habits’, went live today. To learn more about how to build healthier habits from some of the world’s greatest authors, pick up your copy here. Oh, and because we love you so much, use the code SUBSCRIBER10 at checkout for 10% off.

Some self-help books claim habits form by simply providing a reward after a cued behavior. In the behaviorist tradition, they base their claims on research showing how a lab animal, like a mouse, can be taught to memorize a path through a maze in search of food. …


While adversity waits around the corner, fulfillment resides inside of us.

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Life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows, but you don’t need me to tell you that. We’re told that life is tough pretty much from the get-go. And yet, despite ourselves, we get so caught up in the pleasant moments and stability of it all that sometimes we forget that adversity might be lurking around the corner.

Sounds bleak, doesn’t it? The truth is, it’s quite the opposite. Within the knowledge that we will indeed face bad times again in the future can be found a deeper sense of peace. Removing the element of surprise from a situation is almost like removing the sting from a scorpion’s tail before it strikes our skin. …


An idea from Julia Pugachevsky

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The following is an excerpt taken from the first edition of our brand new print magazine. To get your hands on a copy, filled with original content from some of the world’s bestselling authors, follow this link and use the code ‘SUBSCRIBER10’ for 10% off.

I used to live with someone who — in the name of self-care — sat on the couch every single night. She wouldn’t bother making plans or taking us up on invites, almost always choosing Netflix and delivery instead. …


An idea from Spencer Sekulin.

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The following is an excerpt taken from the first edition of our brand new print magazine. To get your hands on a copy, filled with original content from some of the world’s bestselling authors, follow this link and use the code ‘SUBSCRIBER10’ for 10% off.

Life is not a straight line, and it was never meant to be easy. The path that we all walk is as Seneca once said: terrain on which thunder and lightning play.

Life is uncertain at the best of times, and at the worst can seem chaotic, unbearable, where it becomes an act of courage just to live. History is replete with it: wars, famines, pandemics, upheavals, and all manners of disruptive times have come and gone — and will come still, in my life and in yours. …


An idea from Danny Forest.

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The following is an excerpt taken from the first edition of our brand new print magazine. To get your hands on a copy, filled with original content from some of the world’s bestselling authors, follow this link and use the code ‘SUBSCRIBER10’ for 10% off.

I was an insomniac. As much as I tried to calm my mind, I couldn’t help but go down the rabbit holes of my inner thoughts, preventing me from falling asleep. During the day, things would go well enough, but at night it was a torment of never-ending, mindless reflection. I was always tired and had low energy. I functioned well in the morning but felt useless in the afternoon. If only I could calm my thoughts in the evening and get a good night’s sleep. …


Just kidding, but that’s what people seem to think. Let us explain.

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What’s up Mind Cafe crew?

Recently, Jordan Gross, Jon Hawkins and I have been hearing a fair few writers express their disappointment about how difficult it is to get into Mind Cafe. Many have even said that it’s near-impossible, and so there’s just no point in trying anymore.

While it’s difficult, it’s certainly not impossible. Trust us — we’d know. To clear up some of the confusion, Jordan has spent a lot of time writing the following article about what makes it so hard, how to increase your chances, and a few reasons why your pieces might be rejected.

You can read Jordan’s article in full by clicking this link. …


An idea from Spencer Sekulin.

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Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

The following is an excerpt taken from the first edition of our brand new print magazine. To get your hands on a copy, filled with original content from some of the world’s bestselling authors, follow this link and use the code ‘SUBSCRIBER10’ for 10% off.

When were your happiest moments? For me, they were the ones in which I was present, totally lost in my senses — moments of hearty laughter with friends, moments surrounded by nature, moments of complete immersion in the smell of food and the gentle hum of background music, moments of feeling the texture of the pages of a book while I read, moments of watching snowflakes sauntering gently downwards like the white petals of cherry blossoms. …


Sometimes, all we need to do is unplug.

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The concept of a digital detox is nothing new. We’ve all read the reports: phones are making us miserable. Social media is crushing our attention span. Technology is the thief of our happiness.

As more resources, statistics, and warnings populate our digital periphery, the demonization of social media is becoming a popular trend. Many would claim that our digital habits are wreaking havoc on our happiness, focus, and mental wellbeing, and that things are only going to get worse.

But is this really the case? Is our addictive consumption of social media really such a harmful pastime? Whilst asking many similar questions myself, bringing my digital activities under scrutiny and questioning the future of our tech-dominated lives, I returned to one of my favorite books on the subject — Matt Haig’s Notes on a Nervous Planet. As an author, Matt is known for his lifelong struggles with depression and anxiety. …


An idea from Remy Franklin.

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Mind Cafe’s first print magazine, ‘Clarity’.

The following is an excerpt taken from the first edition of our brand new print magazine. To get your hands on a copy, filled with original content from some of the world’s bestselling authors, follow this link and use the code ‘SUBSCRIBER10’ for 10% off.

The importance of confusion may seem clear in retrospect. But what do you do in the moment, when nothing is clear, and you feel lost, stuck, or miserable? How can you learn to enjoy this experience as a meaningful moment on the path to personal growth?

The key is to cultivate that curiosity and openness that makes confusing experiences, questions, and conversations interesting. This is a lifelong practice, but it starts with accepting confusion as valuable. …

About

Adrian Drew

Inspiring others to live happier, one article at a time. Owner of Mind Cafe. Get in touch via adrian@mindcafe.co or Instagram @adriandrew__

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